A Technique For Always Making The Correct Decision
© Michael Brill 1999
Practice
this exercise while sitting in a comfortable chair with your eyes closed.
This
technique will work regardless of the type of decision you need to make,
whether it is:
·
which of three motels to stay in while on vacation
·
which job offer to accept
·
to stay in or leave a
marriage, a relationship, a job, or an organization, etc.
·
to buy or sell or rent something
·
to physically move, whether it’s next door, across
town or out of town.
The
first step is to clearly formulate
the question in your head.
After
you are clear about what you want to ask, close your eyes.
With
your eyes closed, take several deep breaths and allow your entire body to relax
(become a soft noodle).
Visualize
the stress or tension in your body flowing out through the soles of your feet.
Once
you feel completely relaxed, refocus on the question in your head until it is
very clear. Then envelop the question
with your mind (much like a cloud envelops a mountain top).
Holding
the question in your consciousness, physically move it down from your head
toward your heart.
You
should sense an answer to your question, whether it’s a yes, a no, or a
sensation in your body. If the feeling
doesn’t come immediately, let go of the question. The reason is, if you don’t “feel it” the Ego
will jump in with a rationalization, justification, or intellectualization and
give you an answer based on fear. Relax
for awhile and then try again.
Try
the technique right now. Sit down, close
your eyes, take a deep breath or two, and allow your Self to relax. Here is the question: Should I go out today and buy a $250,000
Rolls Royce? Did you feel your heart’s
response? Here is another practice
decision. Should I go out and buy a 40
pound turkey, clean it, stuff it, and prepare it along with side dishes then
invite my friends over at
Practice feeling this “feeling” by asking your Self
a series questions that you already know the answers to, whether they be yes or
no. For
example, your name, age, sex, race, address, favorite food.
You can also practice whenever you are in a parking
lot at a mall or the grocery store. When
looking for a parking space and you come to the end of a row of parked cars,
stop for a moment and close your eyes; then ask, “should I turn left or right
to find a parking space.”
Learn to listen to what you feel.